Sometimes things just happen, like straight out of a movie. Or even better than a movie, since art imitates life—or does life imitate art? Idk. But I often find myself thinking about something or someone for a second that day, and then out of nowhere, I run into them on the street.
This has happened to me so many times with so many people. I don’t really know what it means. I do know I’m connected to the divine.
So what’s the difference between fate and destiny?
Obviously, I had to use Google (since it’s free).
Fate is usually seen as what’s meant to happen no matter what. It’s like the path is already written, and you’re just walking it. No matter what choices you make, you end up where fate wants you to be.
Destiny, on the other hand, feels more like a potential. Like something you’re meant to fulfill—but only if you rise to meet it. You still have to take action.
So yeah, maybe when I run into people like that, it’s fate reminding me I’m on the right path. Or maybe it’s destiny nudging me to pay attention. Either way, I’m listening.
There is a Black Moon in Virgo that rises on August 22 at 11:06 PM Pacific Time and August 23 at 2:06 AM Eastern Time. This is a very transformative New Moon that feels like a Full Moon.
Virgo is a sign of service. We often get lost in serving our loved ones. This New Moon is calling us back to ourselves—to realign with our purpose.
What is our purpose? I mean like, our soul purpose.
I know mine is to turn darkness into light.
This is the last New Moon of the year before eclipse season starts. Eclipses are a time when you don’t manifest—you let destiny handle things. Often, eclipses are seen as a heavily tumultuous time, but I think we should relax and see where the universe guides us.
I think I may want to make this a thing where I do a gratitude post every week or so. I’ve come so far in life, and I know I have so much more I want to do — and will do. I may have a slight ego, but it’s more like the salt on my wound that keeps me going. I could also be a little bit of a narcissist, but that’s only because I know I’ve dealt with extreme, intense situations since I was a child — situations where anyone else would have either killed themselves a long time ago, ended up being the school shooter, or become a product of their environment.
Not that I’m against therapy. I know most people could benefit from it. But I know I don’t need it.
I am strong mentally. I am powerful. I am a master manifestor. I am tapped in with the divine. I understand my energy. I know my soul.
Never fully revealing everything about my life, I live with a never-ending, complicated layer beneath the surface. Just when you think you know me…. you don’t. There’s always another layer. Another set of deep, dark secrets, filled with passion and ambition. A friend once said my energy is like a thunderstorm in the middle of an ocean. I really appreciated that. Although he didn’t fully know me or my life, he knew enough to get my vibe.
I am grateful for all the struggles and lessons I’ve dealt with in this life. They’ve given me the depth that most people walking this planet don’t have — and could never come close to. I am constantly upgrading myself, always in a state of transformation, and for that I am forever grateful.
Sometimes everything happens all at once. Sometimes it’s a slow burn. But when I finally get what I want — or something even better — I see that God has always been on my side. It makes sense why it didn’t happen then, and why it’s happening now.
So I’d like to thank God and the universe for everything I’ve been given, everything I have, and everything that’s on its way to me.
There’s just something about a fresh set of nails that instantly makes you feel put together. You could be rocking sweats and a messy bun, but if your nails are on point? You’re basically unstoppable. Nails are the ultimate accessory, and the technique you choose can totally level up your vibe.
I don’t do my own nails—I leave it to the pros. Going to a good nail tech is so worth it. Not only do you get beautiful, long-lasting results, but it’s also a chance to unplug and treat yourself. Honestly, getting pampered at the salon feels like a mini reset. It’s part of my “high-maintenance to stay low-maintenance” routine. When your nails are done, you don’t need to try as hard in other areas. Effortless, but polished? Yes, please.
Over the years, I’ve tried a few different techniques—each with its own personality and perks. Here’s my take on the most popular ones, plus the one that currently owns my heart. (Spoiler: it’s Poly Gel)
Gel Manicure
The classic. Gel is the go-to for long-lasting shine and a solid two to three weeks of wear without chips. It’s reliable, looks super clean, and has a gorgeous glossy finish. But if your nails are prone to peeling or breakage, repeated gel use (especially without proper removal) can wear them down.
Pros: Shiny, durable, relatively low-maintenance Cons: Can weaken nails over time if removed incorrectly
Dip Powder
Dip powder had its big moment during the pandemic, and for good reason. It doesn’t require a UV lamp, adds strength, and can last up to four weeks. It’s great for anyone trying to grow out or protect their nails. That said, it can feel a bit thick, and removal is… a commitment.
Pros: Super durable, ideal for nail biters Cons: Can look bulky, tricky to remove
Gel-X (Soft Gel Extensions)
These soft gel tips are applied with gel and cured under UV light—giving you that sleek extension look without the harshness of acrylics. They’re comfy, lightweight, and perfect when you want that “wow” factor (weddings, vacations, or just a treat-yourself moment).
Pros: Fast application, lightweight, beautiful finish Cons: Not as long-lasting as acrylics, can lift if not applied properly
Poly Gel – My Personal Fave!
Let’s talk Poly Gel: the lovechild of gel and acrylics. It’s strong, flexible, and totally customizable. Plus, there’s none of that harsh acrylic smell. Whether you want to build up your natural nails or go full-on with extensions, Poly Gel gives a natural feel without the weight.
I’ve been hooked ever since I tried it. It feels light but holds up beautifully—and with the right nail tech, the finish is chef’s kiss.
Pros: Durable, lightweight, low-odor, customizable Cons: Takes some skill to apply if you DIY (which I don’t—but I admire the talent!)
Russian Manicure – On My Radar
I haven’t tried the Russian manicure yet, but it’s definitely on my list. It’s all about next-level cuticle work and insanely precise polish application. Think: editorial-level clean. From what I’ve seen, it gives that “your nails but photoshopped” vibe—and I’m so excited to try it. Stay tuned for a full review (and probably a photo dump on IG).
Nails = Instant Upgrade
Nails aren’t just about the polish. They’re about confidence. When your nails are fresh, you carry yourself differently. You move with more intention. You tap your phone like you’ve got somewhere important to be. They’re a little detail that makes a big impact.
So whether you’re a gel loyalist, dip devotee, or a Poly Gel queen like me, find the method that works for you. And if you’re thinking of treating yourself? Book the appointment. Get the good nail tech. You deserve the pampering—and the confidence boost that comes with it.
Because it’s true what they say: it’s high maintenance to stay low maintenance. 💖
Having a crush is one of life’s most underrated joys. That little rush of excitement when you see their name pop up on your phone. The way you suddenly start caring even more about what you’re wearing. The fact that you’re smiling at your reflection a little more than usual. It’s fun, it’s thrilling, and guess what? It’s actually good for you too.
So… What’s Actually Happening When You Get a Crush?
When you catch feelings, your brain is basically throwing a party. Neurochemicals like dopamine (the feel-good chemical) flood your system, giving you that “walking on air” vibe. According to studies, dopamine levels can spike by up to 40% when you’re around someone you’re attracted to. That’s why everything feels a little brighter, songs hit harder, and suddenly you’re starring in your own rom-com montage.
Then there’s norepinephrine, which makes your heart race, your palms sweat, and your focus laser in on them (yes, that’s why you can’t stop checking their Instagram). Some researchers even say the brain’s response to early-stage attraction is similar to being high on cocaine. Yep—love literally makes you feel addicted.
And here’s a fun one: MRI scans have shown that when people look at photos of their crush, the brain’s reward centers light up like fireworks. No wonder you can’t stop daydreaming.
Here’s the thing—crushes don’t just make you giddy; they also make you motivated. That flood of feel-good chemicals has a ripple effect: You start taking better care of yourself (hello, skincare routine and gym motivation). You pay more attention to how you present yourself—outfits, posture, even how you carry your energy. You feel more alive and inspired to tackle goals outside of your love life too.
This is called the “incentive salience effect”—your brain starts associating certain actions (looking good, feeling confident) with the possibility of reward (aka your crush noticing you). It’s not shallow—it’s science.
But Remember: Do It For You
Here’s the tea though—while crushes are a fun little boost, they’re not the whole story. The glow-up, the confidence, the self-love? That’s for YOU. Because at the end of the day, the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself.
So yes, enjoy the butterflies. Let them motivate you to look good, feel good, and show up fully in your life. But know your worth. Fill your own cup first. A crush is just the cherry on top of the amazing person you already are.
Go ahead and flirt with life a little—it looks good on you. 💕
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